Not Cut Out To Be A Mom

This is a guest post by Mark Terborg

Around 2 or 3pm every Sunday I start thinking the same thing…


At least not the kind of mom that Candiss is.

After taking extra days off to be home with the family around Christmas I’m feeling it more than usual. The kids never run out of energy… which is fun, but exhausting!

Every time I do the dishes my youngest decides she wants to climb on the dishwasher and “help” me… if she isn’t doing that she is throwing whatever she can get her hands on all over the house. My middle child is in a constant state of running, jumping, and wrestling. My oldest loves to talk… so much that I always have to make a constant effort to actually listen because the default mode of every human is to start tuning out anything that never ceases!

So, how bad is it to take care of our 3 kids with unlimited energy? Not bad at all! I love it! I get to play and enjoy life with them everyday when I get home from work and every weekend.

But you know what? I also get to go sit in a silent office for 40 hours a week. (Silent compared to volume levels at home!)

I tell Candiss all the time that I have no idea how she is a stay at home mom! She never gets a break! I would go insane!

When I’m home alone with the kids for a Saturday (which rarely happens) I feel a sense of accomplishment when the kids and I can put away all the toys that got taken out and throw away the garbage and food that ended up on the floor before Candiss gets back home… let alone do all the laundry, mop the floors and do all the other cleaning, go grocery shopping at Meijer with 3 kids and 2 carts, and have dinner on the table the minute that she gets home….And at 2 or 3pm on Sunday I’m looking forward to my quiet office… because I’M EXHAUSTED!


Thank you Candiss! I don’t know how you do it!


Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas!

A Dad Full of Patient Reminders

This is a guest post by Mark Terborg

One Sunday night my oldest daughter at 5 years old was trying to get to sleep. She called out from her room, “Dad, can you read me a Bible story?” What dad in their right mind would say no to that? 😉

I start reading her a story from the Jesus Storybook Bible (highly recommended!). We started reading the story about Jesus teaching not to be like the pharisees who pray really loud and use really big words.

She looked up at me with a big smile and said, “Dad, I think this is the same story we had in kid’s church today!” I told her that, “God must really want us to hear this story! :)” and she giggled.

I was completely excited and so was she! I was excited because it reminded me of so many times in my life where God gives me little clues and reminders that he wants me to focus on something.

I’ve had so many times where God will bring up a verse or topic 2, 3, or even 4 times all within a couple of days or so… through various sources.

I was so excited that God is starting to do that in her life too! I know for certain that GOD LOVES MY DAUGHTER!


Do your kids listen to you the first time you tell them? Neither do mine. Do your kids learn from their mistakes, without you helping them? Neither do mine. God is our loving Dad always reminding us of things through his Word. He isn’t trying to force rules upon us. He is trying to explain and patiently remind us how life works best… Just like we try to do as parents.

God is my Dad who is consistently, patiently, reminding me of things because he LOVES ME! He is showing me that through my kids, and it makes me want to be more like that to my kids.